I’m not your female eunuch!

By Stanley Collymore

You say that you love me and want to marry me, yet
knowing how I feel about having children of my
own you also state that you don’t want us
to have any of our own; and while I
accept your right, for whatever
reasons you have, which you’ve never properly or fully
explained to me, not to be a biological father, why
should I gratuitously at your command subvert
my own inalienable right and profound
desire to have my own children,
much less freely enter what’s essentially an
emotional, for I’m undeniably very
much in love with you, as well
as a binding marital contract with someone
who is quite prepared to so cavalierly,
and yes selfishly, negate my future
life that means so much to me
in the conceited way that
you’re attempting to?

Telling me that we could adopt knowing full well I’m
of child-bearing age and will continue to be so for
several years to come isn’t just insulting to me
but clearly is no satisfactory answer to the
needless problem you’ve saddled me
with ; for although I love you and
wanted very much to spend the rest of
my life with you, marrying you at
any cost and forced to raise
someone else’s children
rather than my own
isn’t my idea of
marital bliss.

And therefore unless you comprehensively rethink your
entire approach to this matter, are willing to extend
to me the common courtesy of treating me as
well as accepting me for the intelligent
woman that I actually am and explain in simple
and unequivocal language why you think you
want to marry me, then from my personal
perspective this relationship that we
currently have is unconditionally
and permanently at an end!

© Stanley V. Collymore
26 November 2013.

Commentary:
In Britain marriage is often entered into without giving much thought to it and usually in the hope that what difficult problems there are that exist will somehow automatically right themselves once the wedding ceremony is over and the marriage becomes a reality. And anyway if this doesn’t happen our easy divorce laws do guarantee an uncomplicated exit from any disastrous marriage.

But what about the psychological damage inherent in all this and to those involved, not forgetting the invariably very significant financial burdens that the rest of our society are left saddled with because of the immaturity of those who can’t distinguish between personal sexual gratification and mature commitment in the relationships that they cavalierly embark upon?

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